Mom’s cataracts were slowly getting thicker and her world was getting darker. Surgery would require anesthetic which was bad for her brain. The recover required lots of drops and keeping her hands away from her eyes. And I had to make this health decision for her. After the visit to the local surgeon I tried
In this past year there have been lots of terrible stories about nursing homes. We can hope this will lead to higher quality care and more monitoring of the homes. I want to encourage relatives to continue to advocate strongly for their loved ones. You have to be involved for the care to be the
Parenting parents was new for me. I never had children so this was a new experience. Money was a private adult matter that was none of my concern and I could not just tell them what to do, I had to ask. The thing with sending your parents to their room is, sooner or later
Mom had other problems beyond Alzheimer’s and needed multiple surgeries on leg arteries. Along with her brain her leg arteries were past the best before date. One of our cousins’ thought it would be handy if she lost a foot because then we would not have to worry about her wandering. That is black humor!
Mom was palliative for nine months. What was she waiting for? My husband said she was avoiding seeing her husband and her mother. My friends said she never had it so good. Six women that fawned over her, massaged her and fed her big bowls of Haagen-Dazs ice cream. A daughter visiting for extended periods.
